Whoa, it works:
YO THIS SHIT ACTUALLY WORKS
Gonna have to try this out when I’m back on my laptop
Dealing with strong, painful emotions can be overwhelming and even lead to thoughts that your situation is so unfixable that the only way out is suicide. That is NOT true nor the case and every situation is either fixable or something you CAN get through. But when you’re in a high-stress emotional state, we can no longer think logically and do what we can to help ourselves. So the first thing we must do is get ourselves calm down enough to be able to use a coping skill.
* Breathing out longer than you breathe in actually activates your parasympathetic nervous system!
Anxiety is your sympathetic nervous system (“fight or flight”) setting off all the alarms, while breathing like this will set the parasympathetic system (“rest and digest”) into action shutting off the alarms and settling your nerves.
Other things that help: laughing, checking out what’s going on around you (moving head and eyes to orient to your surroundings), getting curious about something. (via notyrqueer)
Note: if you have any medication for anxiety that you are prescribed to take in high stress situations (as opposed to a set time and dosage you do every day on a routine) and you have not reached your maximum prescribed dosage, this might be a good time to take it. But only if you need it.
Once you’ve gotten yourself into a calmer state, we can start to use what’s called our wise mind. Basically we have our emotional mind (which I’m sure we’re all quite familiar with) and our logical or rational mind. Wise mindis the idea that neither one nor the other, but both of these combined is the best way to think about what to do and how to react. If we just used our emotional mind, we’ll get lost in our pain. If we only use our logical mind, we’ll be invalidating our emotions and ignoring that those are important and valid and must be included in how you choose to respond or see a situation. So when you use your wise mind, you can make a more balanced decision.
** Once you are able to be a bit more calm and use your wise mind, you should do what you can to ease whatever it is that is upsetting you. First ask yourself, “Is this the right time to deal with this?” For example, do you need to go to sleep soon so you are fully rested? Would doing so disturb others around you (like doing loud activities while others are sleeping)? Would it negatively affect you to do this right now (the person who is angry is still angry and needs space)? If after consider if it really is the right time to do this right now, and you think it is, then it’s time to fix the problem.
Is it homework? Start working on it. Procrastination will only increase the anxiety as it puts more and more pressure on you the less time you have. (Remember to breathe.) Is it chores? Go get them done. Is it a problem with a friend or loved one? If they are open to talking about it at this time, try that. (There could be a whole post on relationship effectiveness but you can find some information here and here.) Is it making some phone calls? Get them done.
Note: It is entirely okay to ask for help if these things are too overwhelming to do alone. Ask a trusted friend or family member to either sit with you while you make a call, for example, so you can look to them if you need to know what to say or for reassurance that you’re doing okay. Maybe have someone sit near you while you do homework so you know you’re safe. If you can, have someone work through it with you to lessen the load.
† If the problem can’t be fixed right this minute, or it is not the right time to do it, then do what you can to prepare yourself. One way you can do this is through radical acceptance. That means to accept your situation as it is, that you cannot change it right now, and you will have to deal with it. With radical acceptance, you can look at what’s in front of you and really give yourself the ability to problem solve. If you focus too much on what life should be like, or what should have happened instead, or what you or someone else should have done, then you are not looking at the problem in front of you. You are trying to change the past so that it’s not a problem anymore. But the fact is that it is, and it’s upsetting you, so you have to accept that it is happening so that you can do something about it.
‡ If there is nothing you can do right now, then it’s time to focus on what we can do, which is to improve the moment and make “right now” better. The way we do this is to use a coping skill. This means choosing to do activities or actions that make you feel better either by soothing yourself through the senses, being kind to yourself, doing something that can affect the mind through the body (like exercise or calming tea), or distracting yourself. There is more to it than that, but for right now, pick through the list below and choose a few that might help you and remember them. (Maybe keep a journal of things that end up helping you so you can refer back to it in a high emotional state.)
- Listen to music
- Go for a walk
- Take a relaxing bath or shower
- Drink some tea
- Deep breathing (5 counts in, 5 counts out)
- Call/text a friend
- Think about something you are grateful for
- Make a list of things you are grateful for
- Watch a funny video
- Eat your favorite snack while savoring the flavors
- Take a nap
- Journal (write your thoughts/feelings) ….Click here to see the rest of the list.—-I know sometimes it can feel like coping skills won’t help and that because they’re not fixing the event that originally caused the distress, but remember that you can’t think about how to deal with a situation properly when you are solely in your emotional mind. It cuts off your ability to reason fully. So if you can find a way to make yourself feel better, not only will it make it easier to handle the situation at hand, but you being happy is important. You are important. You really deserve to be happy and nothing is unfixable. There are steps you can take to feel better. You just have to give it a try.Note: This post and the information and links provided are not a replacement for real, medical treatment. Please do not stop taking your medication or change your dosage without your doctor’s consent or knowledge.If you are suicidal or thinking about harming yourself please call 911 or call the National Suicidal Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. (U.S. only. To find the suicidal hotline for your country, click here.)
DBT Self-Help Resources: Coping with Extreme Emotions
We have a frog and a pig
a rabbit and a promiscuously drawn woman
a donkey and a dragon
a shape shifting dog and a rainbow unicorn
and a warthog with a meerkat who raise a lion cub
But no one will ever accept the Bee Movie
I thought this was gonna be about gay couples but gee was I mistaken
"bitchily proves her point because feminists have no self awareness"
To be fair, it is unfair to write off a whole gender as bitchy, but a lot of people have had bad experiences with girls, especially teenage…
You… you can’t be serious. This horse has been beaten so fucking long I don’t even think it any longer qualifies as dead anymore. It’s just fuckers going around smacking bottles of Elmers glue and bowls of kibble and bits with sticks. Do I really feel like dusting off the ol’ beaten stick to do this shit again?
Luckily for you I hate her that fucking much.
1- Raised over 20 fucking times as much money as she asked for with her kickstarter. Gave nothing back. To make videos about video games, something fucking thousands upon thousands of people do for free. Getting 160,000 dollars when she only asked for 6,000. And continues to receive more donations. And made what, like 5 vids in two years? When those who do it for free do more thorough research, have better quality videos, and make a shit ton more vids.
2- Completely lied about being a fan of video games to get people to back her. In fact she is so fucking ignorant towards the medium she doesn’t know any genres exist outside of shooters. Not to mention no fucking experience in the field whatsoever.
3- Was found to not even purchase some of the games she was criticizing. (the very thing she was asking money for.) Posting pics of just her with games, often times in the fucking store. Where you could just pick one up, snap a pic and put it back. As opposed to, oh I dunno, Some fucking receipts.
5- Has been found to make threats to herself at the same time as asking for more donations (despite getting more than 20 fucking times as much as she originally said would be necessary, and not even using the money for what she claimed to be.)
6- Disables all comments, and ratings, and fucking everything else on her videos. She makes a career out of criticism, but forbids people to do the same to her.
7- Cherry picks like its her fucking job. Which since idiots keep giving her free money to do it, I guess it literally is her job. Like with her review of Hitman, where she claimed the game was misogynistic because it allowed the player to kill women and drag their corpses around. When you can do the same fucking thing to every male character in there as well, plus strip the clothes from the male and only the male characters. And criticizing a game for using a “damsel in distress trope”, when the final boss was fucking defeated by the female character herself. Or her criticism of fallout because the game gives you a popup for killing a woman when you have high karma. Or their depiction of female sex workers. When the game does literally the exact same fucking thing for males in both regards. She tried to claim a mission in watch dogs about taking down a fucking sex trafficking ring somehow supports them. She has claimed games that penalize you for attacking random women are somehow encouraging players to do so.
So what did she do? She tricked people into giving her a shit ton of money, to partake in a hobby she doesn’t even like by her own admission, doesn’t even play half the shit she’s criticizing, cut corners in production including fucking theft, all to tell the people who do like this hobby that they’re bigots, while refusing to address criticism herself, ignores 95% of whats in a game so she can take out of context examples and paint it as misogyny, and then points to people giving her shit for all that she’s down to harm the gaming community and scam people out of money as justification. And you fucking morons keep supporting her.
She’s a fucking scam artist, playing off people insecurities towards gamings influence on immoral behavior. Which has been disproved time and time again. And just some common fucking sense would tell you that if this shit were true, with the number of people playing AAA games there would be a obvious increase in certain actions every time a game was released. Which is fucking hilarious since many of these people fucking loathedthe republican party when they tried to claim video games encourage violence and terrorism. But suddenly a feminist says the same fucking load of bullshit, and these idiots are fucking dislocating their jaws so they can swallow it faster.
>feminists claim that feminism is for equal rights for both genders
>that means for both women’s rights and men’s rights
Conclusion: Feminists were MRAs the whole time. :^)
Liek if u cri evrtiem
Zoe Quinn identifies as a feminist and her work is in favor of feminism,
JonTron doesn’t identify as a feminist and his work is not in favor of feminism.
Therefore people like Zoe Quinn and Anita Sarkeesian will not get called out on their shit.
People with a brain and morals will get angrier as this kind of shit continues.
I am not okay with the lack of continuity for Goofy’s real name
I don’t know what I was expecting, but this is bullshit.
I AM NOT OKAY WITH THE LACK OF CONTINUITY
goofy changes his name ever few years for the purpose of tax evasion, he has been dodging the government for well over half a century and owes hardworking american citizens hundreds of thousands of dollars in back taxes